Are You Asking For Too Much?

Sometimes we second guess ourselves as to what to ask, when to ask and who to ask. Yeah, some may require more than others, but what’s more? What‘s considered your minimum? We all have that friend or family member that requires a lot of attention, you know the needy one. We also have that person who doesn’t ask for much. So since they don’t ask for much, does it mean they should get everything they ask for? Well, I guess it depends on what and who they’re asking. “Too much” can be different to everyone. However, our happiness is our responsibility, but that does not mean that certain expectations from others go away. We need and want some level of attention from others to feel valid. Some of us have that personality twist that makes it hard for us to reach out to others, or ask for help when we’re stressed. Do we rely on how well others know us or are we afraid of being rejected? Or is it that we often put far too much pressure on ourselves and expect more than we should? Do you wonder how much you exist in other people lives? Some of these questions will make you take a step back to reevaluate yourself—am I asking for too much? Some may say “heck no, I deserve it.” Others may say “yeah, I’m asking for too much.” Things to ask for: Time-spending time with friends or loved ones without interruption gives you a chance come together and talk, keeps your relationship healthy and strong, builds emotional intimacy and trust. Respect-admiring needs and wants, no wrong doings to each other, be mindful of feelings. Loyalty-support each other’s dreams, remain faithful to the foundation of your friendship/relationship. Guess what? Everything else will fall into place. But it’s up to you to decide if you’re asking for too much.

“You’re not asking for too much, but maybe you were asking the wrong person”

—Emma Grace