It’s Ok To Say No

Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed pleasing others? Are you the one that says “yes” to every task because you want others to see you as the “I can do it all” or “go to” type of person? Do you say “yes” to get a “yes” in return? Sorry to say, but life doesn’t work that way. Saying no can be difficult for some of us because it may seem rude or selfish. Actually it’s not, unless you’re saying it in a rude way.  It’s actually a way to show others that you can stand up for yourself- your values and beliefs. Learn to be sincere, but assertive when saying no.  When you demonstrate that assertiveness, others will know that’s what you mean. We shouldn’t have to feel guity for not committing to something we don’t want to do— or have time to do. Some of us have said “yes” for so long, no one will expect us to say no. Just imagine the pressure you’re putting on yourself. You’ll find yourself doing everything for everyone else, and nothing for yourself.  

People are always going to have requests. Sometimes you will be able to help; sometimes you will not. If you put everyone else’s needs ahead of your own, you will become mentally and physically exhausted. Set boundaries and know you cannot control the opinions of others. Please know that it is okay to say no even if you have already said yes (you’re allowed to change your mind), especially if you realize you were not being true to yourself. It’s better to make the right decision late than follow through with something you really didn’t want to do in the first place. 

Teach yourself to say no clear and respectfully. Keep it simple, especially if you feel there’s no need for an explanation. Shucks, sometimes we just don’t feel like it...so the answer is NO! It is okay to say no. Your world will not fall apart because of it. And guess what? Theirs won’t either! ”I refuse to please others at the expense of my well-being. Even if it means saying “no” to the people who are used to hearing “yes”. -Unknown