The Strength of Friendship

A deep connection between individuals that brings out a smile from within, the joy of each other’s company...those well kept secrets, laughter that makes your cheeks and belly hurt...comforting words and gestures...keeping it real, regardless how bad it hurts...love unconditionally...trust at the highest level. How many of us have friends like that? True friendship is based on trust. Once that has been established, everything else falls into place. The vulnerability of tears and humiliation allows us to confide without feeling judged. Who wants to be picked apart at our lowest? It’s hard to find true friends. Be careful of those who will try to enter your life with an agenda. Friendship is a feeling, you’ll immediately feel the vibe. It’s nothing to be forced, just allow it to grow naturally. Some of us have friends from elementary school or the neighborhood. While some developed bonds during their life journey. Either way, cherish and be present for those who show up for you. True friendship is someone who neither lead or follow, they walk beside you. They’re the ones who keep their promises and expect the same in return. He or she will be your “ride or die” and wants to see you happy. A friend is someone who picks up the phone at 2am so you can cry, laugh or vent. Friends encourage and remind us what we’re capable of. It’s someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you for the way you are despite the quirkiness. Everyone has something unique about them. Who wants a fake friend anyway? There should be no fear of being your authentic self, especially with those you trust. Although we’re not perfect human being, there will be moments of disagreement. If someone is feeling some type of way, allow space for those moments. There’s nothing worse than saying or doing something inappropriate you’ll later regret. True friendship is when you haven’t talked in a while and just pick up where you left off with no questions asked. It’s like you’ve never skipped a beat! However, make time for your friends. You can never be too busy for a cup of coffee, better yet a glass of wine. Schedule a fun night out or a getaway. These are the moments to catch up and make memories. Also, take a moment to return that phone call or respond to a text. Be a good friend to yourself so you can be the good friend they are to you. Keep your circle small, the love is bigger and genuine. They’ve become your chosen family.

”The right people appreciate you. They value you, your energy and your time. They cherish you, they believe in you and support you however they can. They don’t make excuses, their actions speak louder than words. That’s how you know who’s meant to stay in your life.”

- Lukas Notes