Trust

A five letter word that carries so much weight. It can give you peace or it can keep you up at night, making you resurface your worst insecurities. Trust is the faith you have in someone that they will always remain loyal to you and love you. To trust someone means that you can rely on them and are comfortable confiding in them because you feel safe with them. Can I trust you? Can you trust me? Can we trust ourselves? There’s no in between. Either you do or you don’t. Learn to use communication as your building block. No secrets, no lies... not even the little ones. It’s the little ones that make you wonder “ If you can lie about something so small, what else have you lied about?” ( even the ones to yourself). Did you know a single lie discovered is enough to create doubt in every truth expressed? Think about it. As you grow and learn from past mistakes, your path of honesty shifts. In order to gain or regain trust, you have to be transparent with those you love and yourself. One of the best assets of a friendship/relationship is comfort. Knowing someone has your back, bringing light into your life (that sense of peace) and protecting you from the darkness. Trust is earned. You can’t demand it, especially if you’re not trustworthy; however it can be built with effort to secure the connection. To be trusted is a greater compliment than to be loved. Without trust you have nothing. It takes years to build, seconds to break and forever to repair.

Who wants to worry if their best girlfriend or guy friend can keep secrets? Who wants to feel anxious when your significant other’s phone beeps or rings—wondering “who’s that”? Who wants to be constantly reminded of their mistakes? At this point in life, no significant friendship/relationship should give you doubt of trust...None! If it does, reevaluate its worth. Trust is a process. It takes time. If it’s worth it, trust together— be open, honest, consistent and vulnerable. Say what you mean and mean what you say all the time.

So I’ll ask again, can I trust you? Can you trust me? Can we trust ourselves? “You can fool people. You can fool anyone anytime of the day, but you can’t fool yourself. At night when you go home, you’ve got to be straight up with yourself”

-Whitney Houston